i want a cupcake

I was reminded today about my blog. lol. A coworker (and friend!) actually quoted part of it. Aww. It make my heart smile. So I guess it means I'm back? I have been slacking, but I'm a busy gal these days and plus my life isn't that exciting! Well, actually the "excitement" should be left out! Put nothing in writing, I say...especially on the internet!

Anyway, so my aunt came to visit from Sudan and it is soo sweet to just chill, drink some tea and have long conversations with her in my broken Arabic haha. Mostly, they consists of Sudanese people's number one, beloved topic-El 3iris (weddings/marriages). As a young Sudanese lady, that should somehow be my life's goal. Ugh! Its insane. Its as though prolonging my bachelor's would have actually won me some time from getting the sly comments of "halas baad tha" (okay, after this..'implying its next') and such. My mom claims its in everybody's culture, want their child to be 'taken care of'...blah blah. One of the dialogues my aunt and I had was really funny though! You know when older and wiser people, can just say the most profound things in less than 5 words and it gets their point across (..obviously, I lack in that art. lol.) and make you (in this case, me) feel stupid...

Anyway, I was trying to explain to her that the average Sudanese guy won't work for me. I, of course touched on all the obvious-my independence, not the most religious/conservative, have never lived in Sudan, etc..then I decided to explain that besides, I need an "adventurous" guy! I couldn't translate the word 'adventurous' to Arabic and my mom (aka my human dictionary) was no where to be found. I proceeded to explain it by saying i want someone who doesnt want the suburban life. Someone willing and wanting to travel and live overseas and learn new cultures, and help developing countries and their people etc...She looked at me with a smeak and said "3ad yahyima loh kida, amshi safri baraki" (translation: In that case, go travel alone). No, I'm not mad...its not a dream-killer statement, the way the oversensitive American may take it (excuse the stereotype). Its a dose of reality a la Sudanaise. Thats the way habobat (grandmas)are..you see. They keeps it real. Anyhow, I don't know. I didn't want to ruin her dream either by saying, well maybe I can't find a Sudanese and adventurous guy but maybe I'll find a non -Sudanese, adventurous one...but thats another post. haha.

Anyway, back to reality and by "reality" I mean thinking grad school and career- NOT marriage....